Ok first of all i have been clear for about 6 months but befor that i was 95% coverd. it was horrible, and devistating for a 16 year old girl. But n e ways, it has just recently gotten to me. I mean im clear,but im greiving. I was put on Zoloft and im failing school and my relationship with my parents is horrible. And im worried about my relationship with my boyfreind! Help. WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Chelsea

Hi Chelsea,
I don't think that we've met, so let me take this opportunity to welcome you to the Board! :cool: Nice to meet you. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a rough time. First, you've done the right thing by saying something. I've very proud of you. Second, you sound like you need more help then we can give you here on the Board. Please talk to an adult that you trust. If you can't talk to your parents, then please talk to your doctor or minister or one of your teachers or one of the counselors at school. There's tons of help available to you. You've taken the first step by recognizing that you have a problem.
Hope this helps.
Good luck. Feel better and please keep us posted.
Mike
Mike

Hey Chelsea!
Alright... first off, you gotta stop stressing about everything. take everything nice and slowly, one step at a time... and worry about each day as it comes.
About school? Well, im not one to give much advice about school, but i have learned a few lessons this year... First of all, and probably most importantly... worry about yourself... Don't worry about what grade you're getting, or what grades the other kids are getting, worry about you, and strive to do YOUR best... just for you, not for anyone else... I go to a Christian school, where nearly all the kids have grown up in a christian school, christian home, christian church, with christian friends... and know nothing but that... And something that comes along with that is that they all succeed... They all have good parents and they're all good kids who sit down at the table every day when they come home from school, and do all of their homework perfectly for hours, and then nicely stick it in their backpack so as not to forget it for the next day. They answer all the questions, with the right answers of course, and they ask billions of questions to be sure that they fully understand what they're supposed to be learning .They get along w/ all the teachers, and bring them presents at christmas and the end of the year, etc. ... And then theres me... THAT ^^^ was not me. i didnt have those kind of working habits... I did homework when i felt like it, and sometimes left it lying on my desk instead of bringing it to school the next day. I didnt ask questions, cuz oftentimes i really didnt care if i understood it... I didnt ever stick my hand up, and groaned everytime the teacher called my name cuz i hadnt been paying attention. I couldnt care less whether the teacher liked me or not, they meant nothing to me... i was getting C's and D's, and really couldnt care less... And then i started to realize (basically just this year) that my actions were based on other peoples actions... I like to take the flip side, nearly everytime... And i saw how "perfect" they were, and what kind of protected lives they lived, and i didnt want that.. I didnt want everyone to think of me as a goody goody... i realized i was doing bad simply because they were doing so good... or so it seemed... so i started to worry about ME... not them, just me... about how I feel... If i feel like working, i'll work... If i dont feel like working cuz im in a bad mood or something, then i dont work, and i save it for the next day. When doing my homework... I give myself rewards/priveleges... i say okay... if im on the computer for half an hour, then after i have to do homework for half an hour... and why do i do it? Not cuz anyone tells me to, simply because thats the way it works for me. I dont have the motivation that some people have to just work work work and not stop... I dont have the motivation, nor do i have the concentration. Im sorry i cant tell you that i absolutely love my teachers, cuz i dont... but this year, they have worked together with me to develop a plan that works well for me, each of my core subject teachers has told me that i can come see them at any lunch hour if i need help with anything.. they let me leave the classroom sometimes if i cant concentrate inside the classroom... they give me extensions on work if im having a bad day or have lots going on. We work together... its a team effort... I do what they ask me, and they make an effort to make learning work for me... So, this was probably just a huge long rant about school.... BUTTTT... if you take one thing from it: take this:... school is not about anyone but you. It is not about how well your classmates are doing or how good of grades you're getting. Its about YOU, and your motivation to succeed... Set goals and dreams for yourself, and then work towards them, and dont let others stand in your way... I think if u start to realize that, school will become a lot easier for you, and your grades will very likely go up...
About your parents... another subject that im probably not the best one to give advice about... i wish i could tell you that me and my parents have an awesome relationship and that we always tell each other our problems and work them out and that theres never yelling at my house, and that i love being home... But i cant... sorry... we often dont tell each other when somethings wrong, and if i do tell them, i usually yell it to them... theres contant yelling, fighting, arguing, and often-- i dont love being here, which is why i spend a lot of time working, and at friends houses... So really, im sorry--- but i dont know what to say about it... Im sure someone else will come along w/ advice about that..
About your boyfreind... Why are you concerned about it? Is there something going wrong specifically that you're concerned about?! Otherwise i would say--> keep it real... and keep the communication level up... Let him know whats going on in your life and why you may appear to be more stressed out or uptight lately, chances are--> if he's a good guy, he'll understand, and he'll be there for you...
Like i said in another post, if u have msn (huggable_20@hotmail.com), aim (kimmy9270) or yahoo (alsdkfnlwe) let me know, cuz id love to talk to you more!
x0x0x Kim

ok....well...first off... KJ...u r so lucky u have that kind of realshonship with ur teachers...cuz let me tell u how it goes at my skool...do the work or dont..no deadlines and a lot of my teachers dont like me. well i mean not a lot...but a few. and i personally i only like a few of them. well the parent thing i can help you with...*sigh* i dont have one of those realshonships where everything is great and we tell each other everything...i dont want it like that..but from talking to u b4 i remeber u telling me u parents didnt belive u when u told them it itched. you need to sit down and explain to them about it. if you cant talk to your parents talk to a friend...i know my friends and i tell each other EVERYTHING....and i know that if u need someone to talk to im here...just pm me or im me or w/e u need to do...you can go ahead and do it. i have talked friends out of sucide and out of other problems. i know that talking about it helps...i know when i have a problem i usally tell kj...cuz i know she's there and isnt rushing off telling my mom...unlike my sisters..and my brother. so pretty much all i really want to say is talk about it. i know wat kj said about skool is 100% correct..its all about u. i personally am one of the kids who are self motivated...but this year i stopped pushing my self...i realized..hey...who am i doing it for..i can do it l8r...i have time l8r and i dont really feel like doing it. i also got really bored in skool...so i had trouble in math...cuz i was used to tuning out..(hehehe). and finally...stressing..yes i know all about that..i havent been more stressed then ever rite now..finals next week..had one final today with out even knowing i was gonna have it. stressing is not good for the P. try to realax! its hard..i know..but u have to! ok so i think i have said enough. o, ya..one last thing...keep talking to ur b/f....he is there for u..keep the realshonship good..u dont wanna loose him.
xox,
~Dee
ps...glad to hear ur clear!!