hi guys:
i've been with my bf for 3 months now, and we were friends for over two years before that. i am 21 and we attend the same university. he still doesnt know that i have P, i'm diagnosed at 15-25% covered, but have been on PUVA for over a year now, and all my P areas pretty much look like bruises. he thinks i hurt myself often( which i do anyway) but am very scared for the day that i get the flare. i know its easy to say that if he is so shallow and he cares about it, then he isn't worth being with, but honestly, i would understand. if i didnt' have P and found out my bf has it, i honestly would not know what to do, i would prolly wean myslef off him, and blame other reasons, even though i know that it is the P. i like him so much, and he seems to feel the same way, but i don't know how long this happiness would last. i get mad at him for no reason when my P gets bad (on my scalp and face, which the PUVA does not help) so that i would have a reason not to see him. i am heartbroken over this, and see no other waybut to break up with him if the P does flare. its hard cuz i like him so much...i could not stand this type of rejection...how do you guys deal with it? i could never tell him in a million years!

It's not like you have AIDS, or something else extremely contagious. Just tell him what you have, and explain that it's not contagious, you aren't going to die, and you're being treated for it. Then ask him to scratch your back (if you have p on your back). It works for me......... :rolleyes:

Hey!!
I totally know what you mean, thats a rough situation to be in... Tell him straight up about your psoriasis... but dont just say "i have a skin disease called Psoriasis"...explain what psoriasis is, show it to him, and tell him bout the website and let him know he can be free to visit it and get more info!!
Good luck hun, just be honest... he'll still like ya!
x0x0x Kim

I totally know what you mean i have known my fiance for 2 year and we have been dating 1 year and a half...........i broke the news and he said thats cool so yeah he understood.........i also try not to tell people because i think thet are going to dislike me and well i totally know how you are feeling.....i would not tell people til i meet them then i would know that if they cared or not.... most of my ex's didn;t care and well you just gotta tell them and maybe you can be engaged soon...
Jessica

Tell him. Now.
If you are nothing but a passing fancy to him, it'll hurt but it is best that you find out now.
If it is going to be more than that, do not wait until you flare to tell him. By then he would be right to ask "if she hides this truth from me, what else will or does she hide?"
I cannot tell you which way he will bounce when you tell him, but not telling him is a bigger mistake. My wife took me when I was half patched over and she has never asked anything of me since abouth P and PA but how she could help me relieve the pain and or itch.
Good luck and God Bless.
Z

its a tuff call, but the bottom line is if he cant deal with it then hes nothing more then a shallow loser who will never be happy in life, if you have stepped in puddles deeper then him then ya get rid of him, but if hes a good guy then im sure he will beable to deal with it, and if he cant! lol feel free to hit me up! lol im single.